I don’t wanna be safe, I want to be with you
I would like to start this comment with Blair’s quote. She said something that I’ve been waiting for since the end of season three. She says “I don’t wanna be safe, I want to be with you”. I think that these words represent perfectly the arrival of Chuck and Blair’s journey and how far they’ve come. Chuck asked her this question -and back then she wasn’t ready, the time was wrong, because he’s Chuck Bass and timing isn’t his strong suit- some years ago, he asked “Are you brave enough?” after he told her that they were never going to be safe. Now the answer is clear and the answer is yes, showing that Blair has always wanted Chuck…who isn’t simple or pure and he definitely isn’t safe, but he makes her happy, he completes her and understand her in the deepest and in the most unconditional way. This is the greatness of Chuck and Blair, who found stability in their absolutely unconventional love. Chuck and Blair have an extreme relationship in every sense, something which has never changed and didn’t have to change, because it makes them so unique. The kind of love they share shouldn’t be compared with normal real life, because it’s a really crazy love but it’s something right for them. The problem was that they weren’t strong enough to live it without ending up destructed by it. Now they are: they don’t live the unconditional, completely absorbing love as something scary or as an imposition (the “inevitable love”), but as something that they both accept and ardently desire. The all consuming, dark and twisted love that used to destroy them now makes them strong, complete and gratified. Chuck and Blair would still do anything for each other, but it’s not wrong…it not wrong for them. It’ not about “Right love” in its generic meaning, but it’s about a love which is right for them. Because if before, as it happens with the IP, their love was like a “dictator”, now loving each other so much that they would do anything for each other is an act of pure will and immense trust. “Normalizing” Chuck and Blair’s relationship has never been the point. The point was making them strong and aware enough to let them live their love completely, without any fear.
After this extremely long premise…Blair in the episode shows herself as the woman I’ve always new she’d become, a strong woman ready to stand with Chuck in a ring of fire (lol, actually “to stand with you in a ring of fire” is a quote from one of my favourite songs…a really chair one. Click!). This is a Blair who fights and isn’t afraid of doing it. She said “I will stand by you through anything” and she’s doing it. And not just with Chuck, but also with Serena, showing that she would do anything for the ones she loves, because this is who she is. And again, this is something which didn’t have to change and hasn’t changed. They smartly decided to make her accept and love this side of her character. I really loved everything Blair did. The scene with her bitches was so funny! It’s clearly a picture of her future, like a real dictator\queen. The scene with Serena made me cry, it was really sweet. I’m also happy about the Dair scene, it shows how less important then Serena Dan is to Blair.
Speaking of Serena, I totally understand her motivations, but it kind of annoys me hearing again this thing about reinventing herself. It’s been 6 years! Reinventing again? I’ve never thought that Dan would have said the right words about the fact that she doesn’t have to run away from her power and that she should stop hating herself…I agree. Too bad that coming from Dan’s mouth (who’ve always blamed her for being an It Girl and always tried to change her) it sounds like a joke. I mean…really, Dan? Of course she doesn’t believe him. Why should she believe him? Darena’s endgame looks so nonsense to me. But, frankly, I don’t care. In my mind if they’ll get married it will be the first of a long sequence of weddings for S.
Nate is so sweet. I loved the scenes with the Capitan.
About Chuck…I’m still so emotional. I know I won’t ever “love” any other character as I loved Chuck. And I don’t want to. I just can’t, there’s no place left in my heart XD *craziness*
Chuck really became the man Bart never was. He’s finally grown up and totally matured. He would risk his life to save the ones he loves, to protect his family. Is capable of love and trust, he’s strong and sure of himself. Chuck arrives on that roof aware that he tried for his entire life to please a man who’s never loved him and who didn’t deserve all the consideration and the importance Chuck always gave him. A man that Chuck finally see as infinitely smaller and weaker than him, because Bart is alone, he’s enslaved by his own egoism and cruelty. Chuck arrives on that roof building a wall between him and his father, finally not caring about what Bart thinks about him. He’s not indifferent, because he’s clearly in pain knowing that his own father wanted to kill him, but still Bart’s words are meaningless for Chuck at this point. And this is possible because, at the end of his journey, Chuck is aware of himself and of his own value as a person, even if Bart has never seen it. Chuck finally defeats Bart, but not because Bart falls down but because Chuck defeats his insecurities. Chuck’s real victory isn’t about taking back his power or defeating Bart, but is about him finally feeling powerful even with no power! I know it sounds weird, but Chuck finally understood that he’s a powerful man and he’s powerful not because he owns his company or because his father thinks he is…his power is him being a man. His power is him being Chuck. The powerful man is inside of him, in his strength, in his value, in his capacity to love.
About Bart falling…I think that Chuck didn’t give him an hand because he knew that Bart was going to drag him down (I mean, he tried to kill him two times in less than 24 hours, lol). Frankly, I’m even happy that Chuck didn’t give him an and. This is not a Disney movie. I think that Chuck not giving him an had has a symbolical meaning, like “letting go” everything Bart was to him and all the pain he caused. He had to let him go, in every sense. Not giving Bart his hand makes Chuck incredibly human. He’s not Superman, this isn’t a cartoon or a fairytale…Chuck is a 21 years old man who saw his father hurting him in every possible way, denying him love, separating him from his mother and trying to do it again with Lily. He saw him trying to kill him and trying to hurt him by hurting all the people he loves. He can’t trust or forgive Bart any more, it would have been unrealistic. Plus, Chuck and Blair are shown as “dark characters” in this situation, which is good, because they are XD
Anyway, as my high school psychology teacher used to tell us, there are wounds that can’t heal. You have to learn how to live with them. Well, I think Chuck will always live with what Bart did to him. A father who tries to kill you isn’t something you can forget, as much as the way Bart raised him (or didn’t raise him) made Chuck the man he is, for better and for worst. Those things will always be a part of him, like holes in his soul.
But becoming a man proud of himself is his greatest victory. He’s not a perfect man, a simple man, a man without weaknesses of sufferings. But that doesn’t mean he can’t be happy. Happiness in on the menu, it’s not just possible…it’s concrete. He found happiness in himself, learning to love himself. He found happiness in Blair, who is brave enough to love every part of him. He found it in his family, the one that he has now and the one he will have, a family that trust him, loves him and considers him indispensable (Lily, Serena, Nate, even Jack). Ans this is the man Bart never was. Never.